How to Flirt with a Girl over Text? 10 Real Examples that Worked!

If you are wanting to flirt with a girl over text rather than in person, there are some specific rules and guidelines that you should follow. This is because texts can be misleading; they aren't as clear and straightforward as speaking is. Instead, the message must have a clear intent and be done well to be received by the girl positively.

However, if you follow the rules and guidelines that we discuss here, you are guaranteed to have a good outcome with the girl you are crushing on. There is something great about flirting in person, but there is something even better about getting that text from someone you like.

Below are 10 tips (with examples!) of how to perfectly flirt with that special someone over text, whether it's on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat.

1. Don't Be Predictable or Cliché: “What emoji makes you think of me?” No one likes cliché or predictable conversations or comments. Instead, think of questions and comments that will catch her off guard such as the one above. This will grab her attention and draw her into the conversation even further.

2. Begin a Conversation: “Hey, I was thinking about you and wanted to reach out. How are you?” Before you start jumping into the flirting, you must first start a conversation. You can do so sweetly and gently as shown above, or you can go more cause with "Hey, how are you?" Either way, you open the door to flirt some more.

3. Start Getting More Personal: “You're going to love the outfit I wear on our first date.” You can start to get a little more personal and see how she reacts. Talk about “us” and “we” rather than “I” and “me”. On top of that, talk about potential dates (such as above) and see how she reacts.

4. Pour on the Compliments: “Seeing your name come up on my phone screen makes me smile like crazy.” Compliments are a girl's best friend. You can be cheesy with your compliments, you can be casual with your compliments, or you can be playful with your compliments. Appeal to her sensitive side and make her feel special and important.

5. Tease Her: “Hey, can you stop thinking about me so much? I can feel it through the phone.” Do you remember that phrase, ‘When a guy messes with you, it means he likes you?' Well, in this case, this is true. You can tease her about whatever you want, just be sure to not cross any lines or boundaries that make her feel uncomfortable. The example above is the perfect way to playfully tease and flirt with a girl.

6. Don't Be Sarcastic: “I really enjoy getting to know you better.” Sarcasm won't get you anywhere when flirting with a girl over text. Instead, be straightforward such as in the example shown above. This way, she doesn't get any mixed signals and she knows exactly what your intentions are.

7. Picture Perfect: “Thought this was a great pic of me. What do you think? Should I post it?” Every girl loves a guy who can be goofy. Because of this, sending embarrassing or funny pictures of yourself and poking fun at your own pictures will show her that you aren't afraid to be vulnerable and goofy. Above is an example of a text you can use along with a goofy picture.

8. Be Short and Sweet: “Want to go get dinner with me tomorrow night?” Once you decide to ask her out, don't drag it on. Keep it short and sweet such as above. No one likes a lengthy and boring question.

9. Don't Drag on the Conversation: “I don't have anything interesting to talk to you about, I just wanted to get to talk to you.” If you don't have anything else to talk about, be honest about that rather than trying to drag on the conversation for no reason. However, you can still do that in a flirty and fun way such as in the example shown above.

10. Use Questions: “Do you like me? Type “Y” for yes.” Once you ask a question, ask follow-up questions. You can use fun and flirty questions or serious and deeper questions. Either way, you are getting to know her better while also seeing how she responds to your questioning.

How to Flirt Over Text Without Being Obvious?

If you are wanting to flirt with the girl you are crushing on but are trying to be more subtle about it, there are some ways to do that as well. Some people choose to be more subtle with their flirting because they are trying to feel out the situation first before they take their shot. If this sounds like you, here are 10 tips for you on casual flirting.

1. Use Her Name: Using her name makes it personal and makes her feel important.

2. Use emojis: Emojis help her to better understand the tone of your messages.

3. Joke Around: Jokes will help to make her smile and giggle as she reads your messages.

4. Listen to What She Says: Pay attention to her responses so that if they ever come up in the future, you can show that you listen.

5. Ask About Her Life: Make her feel important and ask her about her life and what makes her.

6. Send GIFs: GIFs are fun and exciting ways to make her laugh and add some quirkiness to your conversation.

7. Tease Her: You can tease her in a fun and casual way that will signal flirting without being too obvious.

8. Send Photos: You can send goofy photos about yourself to show her your more fun side.

9. Don't Fake It: Don't be fake. The most important thing is to be yourself and be real.

10. Say Goodbye at the Right Time: Don't drag the conversation on, but don't cut it too short either. Read the conversation and know when to say goodbye.

What to and Not to Do when Flirting Over Text

Now that we have covered some ways that you can flirt over text, it is also important to talk about some important dos and don'ts of text message flirting. There are some things that you want to make sure you carefully apply to your flirting and some things that you will want to avoid entirely. Below are the biggest dos and don'ts of flirting over text, on WhatsApp or Facebook.

Dos

• Check Your Grammar

• Share Interesting Information

• Text Back at the Perfect Time

• Make Her Feel Important

• Be Yourself

Don'ts

• Don't Make it too Sexual

• Don't Be Cocky

• Don't Use Excessive Emojis

• Don't Be Needy

How to Tell if a Girl Likes You Over Text?

When you are flirting with a girl, the natural response is for a girl to flirt back if she is interested. If you are unsure of whether or not the girl in question is flirting back or not, some signs will signify if she likes you back or not.

Once you know, you will be able to tell whether you are wasting your time or if there is a potential relationship that could form. However, many people don't know how to read between the lines of a girl's responses.

If you are unsure, here are 7 steps for you to take to see if she is interested.

1. Start a Conversation: First things first, start a casual conversation. You can say something casual like “Hey, how was your day?” to something flirtier like “Hey, I was thinking about you, how are you?”

2. Know What to Text: There are certain things that girls will love to get from you. For example, you can send her a cute good morning message, be flirty and cute, and send goodnight texts. Throw in some compliments along with these for some added jazz.

3. Be Flirtatious: throw a few flirty comments her way and see how she responds. You can mess around with her or tease her, be suggestive if she responds well, or play it cool and casual.

4. Read Her Signals: Girls will give off signals that they are interested in you. Some of the most obvious signs are that she will send long texts, use emojis, and talk about the future with you involved.

5. See the Signs of a Chase: Some girls want to be chased. Some signs that she wants a chase are teasing, initiation of texting, or not initiating texting.

6. Watch Those Red Flags: Watch out for the red flags. Some of the most obvious red flags are if she is coming on too strong, she is always negative, or she guilt trips you. Run away fast if these happen.

7. Ask Her Out: If she passed all of the previous steps, go ahead and ask her out. You can start by saying something like “What are you doing this Friday?” then move to “I would love to take you to dinner if you are interested.”

Flirting over text, on WhatsApp or Facebook can be a little bit trickier but a lot less intimidating than flirting face to face. Because of this, you must know how to do it and how to do it right. With the proper tools, tricks, and tips that we discussed above, you are guaranteed to get that girl.